Parting Is (and isn’t) Such Sweet Sorrow (another giveaway inside!)

It was with some sadness that I said goodbye to my barbell yesterday. My daughter, Cassie, adopted it because she can give it the love and attention I no longer can.

I remember the day I bought that barbell in June 2008. I felt so he-manish when I walked into the sporting goods store and handled the 20-pound curve bars. When I found one that felt good, I had no idea how to add weights, but the sales associate (Doug…very cute…very nice) showed me a variety of attachable plates and how to use them. I bought six of them, two of which I kept attached to the barbell.

When I brought the barbell, with its two attached plates and four unattached 2½-pound discs, into Cassie’s house, Claire was thrilled to see HER “wheels.” She always played with them at my house, so she was super excited to have them in her house. I told her they were for the barbell and she told me, “No, Grammy, they are wheels for my car!” Who am I to argue with the imagination of a 2-year-old?


My barbell. It challenged me and sculpted my shoulders like no other hand weight or machine ever did, and I’ll miss the emotional high I got watching myself lift. And before you write that off as vanity, I totally believe it’s empowering to watch yourself work out. It also helps you catch flaws in your form. It might feel weird at first, but for me, seeing my body working from all angles helped me – and still helps me – see my body as it really is and not 20-170 pounds heavier I usually imagine it is. Besides, there’s nothing wrong with checking out your buffness. Be proud of your definition! Show it off, even if you’re the only one looking.

The reason for this change in barbell custody is that, as I wrote in my last Refuse To Regain blog (see “I Can’t Want To. I Can’t Like That.”), last week my doctor confirmed what I’d suspected for awhile: my arms are hypermobile/hyperflexible. This means that weight lifting with free weights and machines ultimately caused – or at least accelerated – the damage to the muscles, tendons and ligaments in both my shoulders and biceps. Therefore, I’ve traded my hand weights and barbell for Thera-bands and will continue to strength train under the supervision of a physical therapist.

BUT…you won’t catch me boo-hooing. No way! I was afraid I’d have to give up strength training completely and watch my arms waste away and turn into sticks. Besides, Thera-bands kick ass. If you don’t believe me, get yourself a 3-foot length of the blue or red stretchy bands and check it out. While Thera-band won’t prepare me for powerlifting competitions, that was never my goal anyway. As long as can pick up my grandkids and keep my bones healthy, I’m as strong as I need to be.

Last week I started giving away some of the tools that helped me throughout my weight loss. The first was “Pure & Simple Stretch” with Karen Voight. This week, in memory of my barbell and hand weights, I’m giving away a four-pack of Dummies stuff. Two DVDS: “15-Minute Workouts for Dummies” and “Shaping Up With Weights for Dummies,” and two books: “Weight Training for Dummies” and “Stretching for Dummies.” The only criteria is, if you win, you either pass them on when you’re done (if you’ve found them helpful and can part with them) or keep them and donate a non-perishable healthy food item to your local food shelf. That’s it.

So post a comment or send an email to to enter your name and I’ll draw a winner on Friday!

16 thoughts on “Parting Is (and isn’t) Such Sweet Sorrow (another giveaway inside!)

  1. I like your attitude about watching yourself lift weights! Lifting weights does make me feel empowered and it helps me see my body as more than a number on the scale or what size clothes I wear. Lately I have been watching the P90x and Insanity and The Wave by the Firm infomercials really wanting to take my weight lifting to the next level but not sure which program I might try…Anyway, I love your blog even though I dont' comment often.

  2. I've been secretly reading your blog for a while because I just adore your attitude about everything. I've got about 200 pounds to lose and in 6 weeks I've already managed to lose 30.4 of them! I'm starting my own blog after being inspired by many to write a weight loss blog of my own…we'll see how it goes! Thanks for the inspiration – those dummy books would be perfect for a clueless girl like me!

  3. Thank you for the inspiration, Lynn! I have subscribed to your blog for some time, mostly for the weight-loss connection. I don't think I've ever posted a comment until now and I'm not sure what has prompted me to… I'm just getting started on my weight loss journey. Joined WW in October and have lost 24 pounds – slow and steady?? I'm starting to realize that I need to incorporate strength training. My four-year old granddaughter and I have been exercising together when she comes to stay. Anyhow, thanks for the giveaway opportunity, but even moreso, for being an inspiration!

  4. Your weightloss is inspiring. But, your attitude is simply contagious – and, that's what I really need.


  5. This is my first time posting but I visit your blog quite often. What a wonderful thing to do – give away the equipment that you can no longer use. I recently started WW again and have been doing cardio regularly, but my weight training is not up-to-par. I don't know where to start or how much weight to use, etc., so I'm hoping one of your Dummy books has mu name on it!! LOL

  6. Farewell, barbells! You were good and faithful servants!

    I think you'll like the bands. From what I hear, you can get just as much benefit from them, especially if your goal is strength, flexibility, and toning.

  7. I replied this morning but for whatever reason it did not post! I joined WW yet again about 6 weeks ago and have seen good results considering I added walking 3 miles every other day. I would very much like to incorporate weights into my weekly focus and think this particular giveaway would be of benenfit to me and what I need to work towards…thanks!

  8. I need to get back to strength training. How to find my mojo again?

    Thanks for the inspiration/motivation.

  9. Like others have said, your attitude is wonderful! I've been reading your blog for quite some time, and would like to say thank you for sharing so much of yourself. You've been a big help to me. Sixty-nine pounds gone as of today!

  10. so are they saying you were lifting too heavy – or this would have happened no matter what the weight (lifting) level? I agree – bands can be a great workout. I have also used bands IN a pool – water and bands make a great combination. And No weights at all – using our own resistance can be a great workout too.

  11. I've been reading your blog for a bit, and it's inspired me to lose my weight. I am 320 pounds, and the heaviest I've ever been. I just joined a gym, and am trying to eat right – so we'll see! Just seeing that you've done it gives me hope. Thank you!

  12. You are so going to love your bands! I have my kids “playing” with them too!
    I just started adding weights to my work out! I don't recall them being so hard in my misspent youth! 🙂

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