Have you seen the new Hyundai commercial? Here’s the verbiage (if you want to see the commercial, click here to view it on YouTube): “Instant gratification has us in a stranglehold. So much so that we don’t want to fix things anymore, just replace them. Don’t like you nose? Get a new one. Don’t like your job? Get a new one. Don’t like your spouse? Get a new one What ever happened to commitment? To standing by our decisions?”
The whole thing puts out two separate themes: instant gratification on one hand and commitment on the other. At first, when I heard “…we don’t want to fix things anymore,” I thought about electronics and computer printers and the other things that cost less to buy new than to fix, and because I also know first-hand that Hyundais can break down, I know the message of that part of the commercial was that Hyundai will fix their cars that break down, at least they did in my case several years ago when I drove one. I get that part of the commercial.
What I’m confused about (and need you to help me understand) is the second part of the message. Certainly we aren’t “committed” to our noses, are we? And having surgery to change it isn’t “instant” gratification, is it? Take that one step further. What about gastric bypass surgery? Is that instant gratification?
Is changing jobs or wanting new challenges a sign that we’re not committed?
Welcome to the inside of my head. I’m trying to sort out the difference between a decision and a commitment. I have a love-hate relationship with “commitment.” I really like change. I don’t like things the same for very long. What seems like a good idea one moment leaves me bored or restless the next. Yet there are things and times that are worth sticking around for the long haul – to see them come to fruition and see if they were worth the time and effort, the commitment.
For instance, three years ago I committed to losing weight. Today I’m committed to keeping it off. I didn’t just make a decision. I made a commitment. A commitment takes a plan. A decision is finite. Commitment needs to ebb and flow, doesn’t it? A decision requires another decision in order to change.
I know I’m being vague, and I don’t intend this blog entry to be a therapy session for Lynn, but I wanted to open a conversation with you about decisions versus commitments and learn, through your emails and/or by leaving a comment, your thoughts on “new noses, new jobs and new spouses,” so to speak. Selfishly, I need some perspective because I’m on the verge of making a pretty big commitment, yet sometimes it feels like just a decision based on instant gratification. I’m in the planning stage, the place where you vacillate and try to see all sides: Do I? Don’t I? Should I? Shouldn’t I?
So tell me, how do you distinguish between instant gratification and commitment? And how do you personally become and stay committed to something?
Disclaimer: This commitment I’m facing has nothing directly to do with my husband (he’ll be glad to know that) or gastric bypass, a nose job, buying a computer printer or buying a Hyundai, although I would if I could and not because of the commercial.